Comments on: Domestic Violence http://www.erik-rasmussen.com/blog/2007/01/29/domestic-violence/ Thoughts and photos from an American living in Spain. Fri, 05 Dec 2008 10:46:58 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=abc By: Heather http://www.erik-rasmussen.com/blog/2007/01/29/domestic-violence/#comment-1227 Heather Mon, 15 Oct 2007 02:44:13 +0000 http://www.erik-rasmussen.com/blog/2007/01/29/domestic-violence/#comment-1227 OK so I came across this one for some reason and even though it's nearly been a year I have to wonder what's happened? And I'd also like to add that you are much nicer than I am Erik I would have handed that guy his rear end for breakfast if I were his neighbor........... OK so I came across this one for some reason and even though it’s nearly been a year I have to wonder what’s happened?

And I’d also like to add that you are much nicer than I am Erik I would have handed that guy his rear end for breakfast if I were his neighbor………..

]]> By: hubbers http://www.erik-rasmussen.com/blog/2007/01/29/domestic-violence/#comment-596 hubbers Mon, 19 Feb 2007 16:43:16 +0000 http://www.erik-rasmussen.com/blog/2007/01/29/domestic-violence/#comment-596 It seems like you have all the good advice you need. The only thing I would add is to keep a log of events in case it goes on and on. Recording(s) of what you hear might even be useful if it goes to court. They have some great legislation here in the UK where they can prosecute even if the victim doesn’t press charges. Maybe there is something like that in Spain … It seems like you have all the good advice you need. The only thing I would add is to keep a log of events in case it goes on and on. Recording(s) of what you hear might even be useful if it goes to court. They have some great legislation here in the UK where they can prosecute even if the victim doesn’t press charges. Maybe there is something like that in Spain …

]]> By: erik http://www.erik-rasmussen.com/blog/2007/01/29/domestic-violence/#comment-351 erik Tue, 30 Jan 2007 16:55:16 +0000 http://www.erik-rasmussen.com/blog/2007/01/29/domestic-violence/#comment-351 That's exactly what we've decided to do. We've since acquired the number for the local police, committed their address to memory, and have resolved to not hesitate for a second next time it occurs. Having the cops show up when he's still upset and she's still crying or injured is the best way to reduce their deniability. Unfortunately, we're pretty sure it will happen again. I just hope we're there and awake to report it. Thanks for your input. That’s exactly what we’ve decided to do. We’ve since acquired the number for the local police, committed their address to memory, and have resolved to not hesitate for a second next time it occurs. Having the cops show up when he’s still upset and she’s still crying or injured is the best way to reduce their deniability.

Unfortunately, we’re pretty sure it will happen again. I just hope we’re there and awake to report it.

Thanks for your input.

]]> By: Betsy http://www.erik-rasmussen.com/blog/2007/01/29/domestic-violence/#comment-350 Betsy Tue, 30 Jan 2007 13:51:48 +0000 http://www.erik-rasmussen.com/blog/2007/01/29/domestic-violence/#comment-350 I think that you should not act retroactively on this incident but prepare to act quickly if it happens again. Find out the 24 hour hotline number of the local domestic violence report center. It may just be a 911 type call, but whatever, find it out. Determine the apartment # if possible or at least the street adress. As I recall some of the apartments in your building have an entrance on a completely different street. Acting quickly while the situation is volatile could be the woman and child's best chance to be helped. Of course it is almost never as simple as someone telling the man to cut it out. She may not have any options, he may be wonderful 99% of the time, etc. I hope that this doesn't happen again but if it does, maybe you can do something proactive (but not dangerous). I think that you should not act retroactively on this incident but prepare to act quickly if it happens again. Find out the 24 hour hotline number of the local domestic violence report center. It may just be a 911 type call, but whatever, find it out. Determine the apartment # if possible or at least the street adress. As I recall some of the apartments in your building have an entrance on a completely different street. Acting quickly while the situation is volatile could be the woman and child’s best chance to be helped. Of course it is almost never as simple as someone telling the man to cut it out. She may not have any options, he may be wonderful 99% of the time, etc. I hope that this doesn’t happen again but if it does, maybe you can do something proactive (but not dangerous).

]]> By: Uncle Steve http://www.erik-rasmussen.com/blog/2007/01/29/domestic-violence/#comment-347 Uncle Steve Mon, 29 Jan 2007 13:00:18 +0000 http://www.erik-rasmussen.com/blog/2007/01/29/domestic-violence/#comment-347 No. No. Yes. Yes, definitely, though it is likely that they already do, and this is merely corroborating. np, that's part of the 'uncle' job description - - -> helping. No.
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Yes, definitely, though it is likely that they already do, and this is merely corroborating.
np, that’s part of the ‘uncle’ job description - - -> helping.

]]> By: erik http://www.erik-rasmussen.com/blog/2007/01/29/domestic-violence/#comment-346 erik Mon, 29 Jan 2007 11:25:28 +0000 http://www.erik-rasmussen.com/blog/2007/01/29/domestic-violence/#comment-346 Okay, but is it too late to call in the event we heard? Does the "see it --> call it in" have to happen in the moment? I guess better late than never. Even if they don't investigate, they should at least flag the residence as having a domestic abuse report. I hadn't thought of the damage to all their future descendants. Thanks for bringing that up. Okay, but is it too late to call in the event we heard? Does the “see it –> call it in” have to happen in the moment? I guess better late than never. Even if they don’t investigate, they should at least flag the residence as having a domestic abuse report.

I hadn’t thought of the damage to all their future descendants. Thanks for bringing that up.

]]> By: Uncle Steve http://www.erik-rasmussen.com/blog/2007/01/29/domestic-violence/#comment-345 Uncle Steve Mon, 29 Jan 2007 10:27:05 +0000 http://www.erik-rasmussen.com/blog/2007/01/29/domestic-violence/#comment-345 Big mistake. See (hear) a crime; call in a crime. You're not responsible for the content you hear. I don't know the laws of either this country or yours, but morally you need to stand up. You put it on the woman, but I don't think you know one-thousandth of the situation that she very probably might be in - and if kids see that as an everyday situation, then when they grow older, they *make* it an everyday situation. Sorry to suggest the more uncomfortable route, but you started this conversation. Big mistake. See (hear) a crime; call in a crime. You’re not responsible for the content you hear. I don’t know the laws of either this country or yours, but morally you need to stand up. You put it on the woman, but I don’t think you know one-thousandth of the situation that she very probably might be in - and if kids see that as an everyday situation, then when they grow older, they *make* it an everyday situation. Sorry to suggest the more uncomfortable route, but you started this conversation.

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